By Adriana Sommer da Costa
Psychologist and Sexologist
When there are children in the family, one of the big concerns, mainly there
ant then, regards to kids' sexuality. Thereon, how to offer reasonable
sexual education. Often, children catch their parents off guard with
those famous sex quizzes, and that leave parents in dire straits when
it's high tide to press forward.
As far as children's sexuality concern, they just want to kill curiosity
that for parents is as simple as natural. Sometimes that causes embarrassment
to parents as unknowing how to get on top of it.
The imperative importance of sexual education is well known as well
as its pathway, which doubtless starts at the household. Given that, too, its
beginning becomes relevant before a child begins to attend school. All that
would be acquired wealth of sexual knowledge should be thoroughly implemented
throughout adolescence. A time for rediscoveries, at which point all that has
been taught and learnt will likely to get abreast but from now on with much
more intensity. Hence, rebounding on their sexuality, whose haywire hormones
are well off in rampage.
Parents usually concern about their kids' sexuality, only when they
are coming to puberty, leaving the most precious time for this sort of apprentice
to get left behind by simply taking it for granted. With respects to the kids'
sexual education, what is relevant to pinpoint is that given clues aren't
so profoundly as the follow through and evolution of their sexuality from day one so that will there be catching up with its different phases. There
would surely contribute to foil eventual inadequate interferences.
Therein a child's development of life aspects mastered through watching and
emulation of parents or educators' attitudes that a child would get wits about
it and store for selecting and organizing thereafter.
In order to sexual education be sensibly given by parents, they should
display a certain degree of getting over taboos surrounding them and of the
human sexual behavior. Of which often pose target for ignorance of adults
in respects to their own sexuality.
And yet, misconceptions about sexuality end up interfering in rounding up a
sexual education as reasonable as adequate. Here goes some of them;
Sexual life only flourishes in puberty, masturbation is as sinful as
dirty if not unhealthy, and homosexual-games play up in infancy would therefore
lead to homosexuality in adulthood. Lastly, virginity is pivotal for a happy
ever after conjugal life.
As for school, it's down to the educational process to complement sexual education for children. There should spawn from the household, as opposed to
outstand from other life aspects of the child
No matter how capable parents might be of supplying information. Most likely
there would crop up doubts, and just between us, they always exist.
Let's check some of children's staple qualms in their different phases.
At around two to three years of age, children want to know about the origin
of the babies and the differences between sexes.
From three to four, children want to know about the facts of life, thus concentrating
from this point on their curiosity upon the paternal image and sexual intercourse. Absolutely, this isn't a rule to go by, as children come in all
shapes and sizes. Hence, influences from the surroundings and curiosity itself
may be short lived as well as late coming.
Although information shouldn't be neither hastily nor delayed when children
run their questions, which are always objectives.
How to go about explanations is another significant point for it takes spontaneity.
It boils down, as aforementioned, to the manner how each individual, in this
case parents, have managed bias of their own sexuality.
In fact, there are no rules as such when it comes to giving information about
sex, just spontaneity as in acting casually and with pinpoint accuracy
always employing terms of children's use.
There should ensure understanding, nevertheless, followed by adequate information
back up. Offering a wealth of knowledge even with the child's terms.
Furthermore, pictorial storybooks come in aid of sexual education as
well. However, this sort of material must be replaced by personal information,
provided with affection, as imperative requisite for establishment of solid
bounds between parents and kids. Therefore, benefiting sexual education
and the whole growing process of a child, based on respect and confidence.