By Adriana Sommer da Costa
Psychologist and Sexologist
To talk about sexuality in this stage of life signifies to talk about
great discoveries, of period of bodily and emotional transitions, of cunning
curiosity and the quickening of sex life.
Pre-adolescence starts with changes in the body. In girls, there is formation
of mammal paps- which will poise her to wear her first bra, as noticing the
ogle over from the opposite sex on her bloom of breasts. Hence, it means
self-awareness of the changes her body undergoes. Yet pubic hair growth and
all that taking place in both sexes roughly about the age of nine or
ten. It's a phase epitomized by a state of shame and escape inasmuch as no progenitor
of the opposite sex should ever clasp a glance of one on the nude.
What about masturbation, what happens next, such enlightenment in this phase
of life? From up until recently, masturbation plays major role in teens' overall
It would be wise to say that the age we live in that is clearly sex-orientated;
whose sex-ridden information is media's churned. Let alone prevention,
which more often than not ends up by approaching the use of condoms in a dubious
manner, therefore offering total sexual freedom.
As for masturbation, this has different origins, let's say, between boys and
girls. Let's see. In boys, all takes place in the open, in other words, in talking
with peers- where certain doubts an curiosities are shed light on, leading the
boy to wish for fulfillment in order to come to grips with it. Yet there is
a load of hearsay exchanging on what has been done, as one may have heard the
eldest brother. Furthering the boy's curiosity to achieve such pleasurable sensation.
Manners are the most diverse, and happen by the most spontaneous and natural
manner possible, sharpen by curiosity, whose minds and bodies would urge.
As for girls, discovery by means of masturbation happens in a more accidental
manner. It could be by a tight fit pant, or else, having some vaginal thrush
or thereabouts, on which point she tries to scratch, or plays it up to find
out the reason of such nuisance. There might she discover by touching with her
fingers a source of pleasure sex -linked.
What happens is, girls in particular, at this age- but I figure that used to
happen a while ago, in pretending being boys while peeing, and would try to
do so standing up, and along with it wound up by holding what they didn't have,
by shaping with their hands a V-shape-like on the clitoral region, and that
at the same time would provide a pleasurable sensation. Truly, this region was
being caressed somehow. Since feeling pleasure is good, the girl, would get
back at it, now and every now and then, on purpose, searching for alternatives
to fell again pleasure on this region.
As most things in life, yet masturbation deserves care taken, even more so
in this phase of life, since it should never be the only source of pleasure
of a youngster there and then. To opt to live isolated, not enjoying to socializing,
bearing heavy guilt-feelings, all of which may already be symptoms that something
doesn't go too -well, and deserves attention.
Masturbation is quite something and should be perceived as such gratifying
experience of self-awareness, as preparation for relationships of the affective-sexual kind with the opposite sex.